Words you hear from others as you parent…Are they in the terrible twos? Just wait until they turn three? You think it is hard now; they haven’t even hit the teenage years? This is all so encouraging as your child gets older. So comforting to know that every year it gets harder as your child develops and grows in independence. LOL. I say this sarcastically, but I know there is some truth in those statements and the statements themselves wear me out. For the past few weeks, I have felt pretty weary as a parent. I read about parenting almost everyday, try new discipline techniques, and sit with kids and talk about the real issue, their heart. I go to God asking Him for wisdom as a parent. I exasperated all efforts. I came to a place the other day where I exclaimed, “I have tried everything. There is nothing else I can do, read or pray. It is all up to God now.” As I spoke these words out loud, a light bulb went off. It was an “ah-ha” moment. “Only God can do it. That’s it!” I was so weary because “I” was parenting. Strength is not something I can muster up. God is strength. I cannot ever parent from a restful state until God parents through me. This has to come before any book read or parenting plan implemented.
“Such confidence we have through Christ before God. Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God.” 2 Corinthians 3:4-5 (NIV)
Jennifer Laird is not competent as a mother. But because of Christ and through Him, He has called me competent. I am not capable to parent. But because of Christ, He will make me capable. I recently read, “When we rely on God in everything we do, including raising our children, we can be confident He will equip us for this calling of motherhood.” Therefore, I approach the adventure of motherhood with full confidence in the God who called me to it, remembering that He does not call the equipped, but equips the called. Parenting strength is none I have, but all God is and supplies.
I pray that you can find rest in His strength as you parent. Rest in knowing that God does not just supply strength, He is strength. He is your parenting strength.